"Letters To My Son" by Kent Nerburn last~

If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't

love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your

door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not

take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love

is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same

pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you,

and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to

assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a

meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All

you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it

comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,

then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person

who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it

poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long

without love, they understand love only as a need. They see

their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and

they begin to look at love as something that flows to them

rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as

their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.

They cease to be someone who generates love and instead

become someone who seeks love. They forget that the

secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to

grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its

own season, its own reason for coming and going. You

cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can

only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it

comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or

from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and

there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and

always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE

FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE.

If you keep you heart open, it will come again...